Why Kissing Is So Important

Are you thinking that kissing really isn’t all that important? Do you think that you already know how to kiss? After all, what is there to kissing other than pressing your lips together and varying the pressure while moving your head around, right? You’ve never gotten any complaints, right?

Well, just because nobody has ever complained about your kissing doesn’t mean that you’re very good at it. Even if your partner or past partners have told you that they liked kissing you that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re any good at it. Many times actually, a partner might say that they like kissing you hoping to build your confidence and maybe get you to focus on the fact that you really aren’t that great of a kisser.

The fact remains that kissing is an often overlooked skill that most of us don’t give much thought to. Good enough is usually good enough is the mantra of the day when it comes to kissing. But did you know that lackluster kissing often means less affection and less intimacy in a relationship. So if intimacy is important to you in your relationship or future relationship then listen up.

The first kiss is often the first real test of a relationship. After you have been dating or getting to know someone and everything looks good there will come a moment when you and your partner will find yourself face to face with that first kiss hanging there in the air. You have passed on every other test and now comes the exam that will tell them if there is a future in store for you or if you will become just another friend. So don’t blow it!

For that first kiss and also sometimes when you are already in a relationship, allow the tension and pressure to build. As you stand face to face only inches from each other with that same thought in both of your minds, allow the moment to linger. By doing so you will be heightening the anticipation leading up to that kiss just like you would any wonderful gift. By almost teasing or flirting with the promise of that kiss it will seem even sweeter. So don’t just go diving into that first kiss. Allow the moment to linger.

Also, as a relationship develops kissing should still remain an important part of your relationship. Too many times couples find that there is no passion between them any longer and they feel like an old married couple. If this is you then let me ask you if the two of you still spend time kissing. Do you still set aside time to make out or to kiss your partner in the same way that you did when you were first together? Are you still conscious about what turns your partner on when it comes to kissing and are you still in tune with them when it comes to this skill? If not then this could be a reason why your relationship is suffering.

Remember that first kiss and how sweet it was. Give that moment back to your partner from time to time. Banish the days of a simple peck or kiss to say hello or goodbye and try to make more of your kisses memorable. Just like food, some people like it hot and some not so take your partner into consideration when you kiss them. Maybe your partner likes spicy food every once in a while so maybe likewise every once in a while your partner would like it if you just grabbed them and took their breath away with a deep passionate kiss as you’re leaving for work. Or maybe they would like a flirty, teasing kiss as you whisper something sweet but inches from their face as you stare deeply into their eyes with your foreheads together. It can also be said that just like food nobody like bland, tasteless food and nobody like poor, flat kisses that mean nothing.

It really is amazing that the simple act of pressing your lips against another human being’s lips can lead to such an overwhelming feeling and such passion. When done correctly it can cause someone to devote their life to you and when done poorly it can firmly place you in the friend-zone for life with the excuse being that they just don’t feel that way about you. Work on improving your kissing skills and you will find that you will have a more passionate and loving relationship and a happier partner that values and cherishes you for many reasons including how well you kiss!

To learn how to improve your kissing technique we recommend Michelle Penney’s Kissing 101. Find out all the ways that you can become a better kisser and increase the intimacy in your relationship. After all, there isn’t one of us that wouldn’t like to have a partner with better kissing skills and this includes your partner!

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Lackluster Kissing And How To Avoid It

There is no doubt that kissing, when done correctly, can create an intimacy and connection that can catapult a relationship to the next level more quickly than any other act. When done poorly though, a lackluster kiss can doom a relationship with a partner with which you might have everything in common. This is why learning how to kiss is a skill that you should want to perfect even if you think that you already are a very good kisser.

Let’s think about this for a minute. Have you ever been with someone who was perfect in every way? You might have common goal and agreeing opinions on important topics. They might be extremely attentive and very generous with their time. They might even be very generous with little gifts and the like. Then there comes the moment of truth. You get your opportunity for the first kiss after a couple of dates and you find yourself totally nonplussed. Either it was like kissing a dead fish or you felt as if they were trying to devour you or perhaps even some aspect of that first kiss that you simply can’t put your finger on. Maybe you even give them another chance taking into consideration the fact that maybe they were just nervous or trying too hard. But each time you find that they just stink at kissing or even that there is just no passion when you kiss them.

Now think about this for a minute. Could it be possible that your partner or perhaps someone that you just started dating could feel the same way about you? Do you want to take that chance and possibly miss out on the relationship of a lifetime because you don’t know how to kiss? Let’s brush up on your kissing technique a little bit here and get you on the path to being the type of kisser that your date is going to brag to their friends about on Monday morning.

Tension – It is important to create some sexual tension leading up to that first kiss. Yes, they are thinking about it and you are thinking about it and chances are both of you have been thinking about what that first kiss is going to be like from the moment you first met. Don’t let them down by blowing it and picking the wrong time to experience that first kiss. There will come a time when the two of you are alone and your eyes meet and without a word being spoken you will know that this is the moment both of you have been waiting for.

Try not to appear over eager. Bask in the warmth of this moment. Experience it and allow yourself to be swept up in the passion of the moment. Take it slow and allow this moment to linger in time for as long as you possibly can. That first sweet kiss is the moment that your partner has been waiting for since they first saw you and as the two of you slowly move towards that first kiss the tension builds to a point where it can almost seem unbearable. This is what you’re aiming for and this should be your goal. Gentleness and but a whisper of a kiss can be the most passionate kiss that you can give your partner for their first kiss.

Passion – With that building tension will come passion and if you have done everything right and if your partner really is attracted to you the passion will rise as your first kiss is followed by further kisses. Allow yourself to be swept up in the moment. Go where your heart leads you while at the same time picking up on queues from your partner. If they become wild with passion then go with it. If they seem to be enjoying soft, tender kisses then give that to them. There will be subtle hints along the way that you should be looking for. Are they holding you tight or touching you softly? Is their mouth open or closed? Do they seem shy or have they gone from zero to sixty in 2.3 seconds? It could be that they have been waiting a long time for this moment and the tension and passion is unbearable for them now as they become overwhelmed with passion for you.

Talking – There’s nothing wrong with quiet whispers or even some louder vocalizations when kissing. All people are different and for some it is a turn-on while for others it’s just a distraction that can be annoying. Give it a try or take your partner’s lead? Typically, if your partner is a little chatty this will mean that they appreciate some banter while making out. If you don’t feel comfortable in vocalizing while kissing take things slow and build up to it. Again, for some it’s a big turn-on and a skill that you can learn and master without much effort.

Take these tips to heart and try to stay in tune with your partner as you approach that first kiss and every one after that and you will find that your relationship will benefit greatly. Kissing is a very important yet often overlooked part of a relationship that all of us could use a little help with.

For more information on improving your kissing skills we recommend Michelle Penney’s Kissing 101. Find out how you can improve your kissing skills in ways that you never imagined with Kissing 101. After all, kissing should always be your first priority in any intimate relationship.

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Michelle Penneys Kissing 101 And Why Kissing Technique Is So Important

You might think that there really isn’t a right way and a wrong way to kiss. After all, if there is passion and attraction and your partner wants to be kissed, how can your kissing be wrong? Can there really be a “bad kiss” or a person with bad kissing technique.

Although kissing is, at its core, just a physical form of showing someone how much you care for them, good kissing technique and a little knowledge can greatly enhance the passion and connection that you share with your partner. Think of it this way, if your partner’s breath smelled like a sewer how often would you want to kiss them? If your partner’s breath smelled and tasted like your favorite dessert though, how often would you want to kiss them?

As you can see, kissing technique can be a very important factor in the amount of affection and the frequency with which that affection occurs depending upon several factors. Yes, the smell of your breath is important and probably a basic thing that you should think of when you are in an intimate relationship but how much more important do you think it is that you know how to bring pleasure to your partner when you kiss them?

Even your adequate kissing technique could probably use improvement and learning just a few tricks or tips that you might have never thought of could make all the difference in the world to your partner. Allowing your passion to flow right from the get go could turn a close relationship into an intoxicating lifelong bond filled with passion and intimacy. And if you’re single and dating? Well, superior kissing technique could put you on the map and ultimately be the difference between being alone and being the type of person that your date will talk to their friends about and want to pursue with earnest.

So, what does it take to be an outstanding kisser? Probably the most difficult thing for many people to get a handle on is originality. What is meant by originality is that you experiment a bit more than you might be used to. Break outside of your normal routine. Forget about any “moves” that you have grown to rely upon and think about how you might like to be kissed and then go from there. Of course, pay attention to the response that you get from your partner and move slowly at first with trying new things. Basics are always important and timing is everything, so if you think that you might be lacking in either of these areas start off really slow!

Of course, for a thorough understanding of how to become extremely skilled at the art of kissing we recommend Michelle Penney’s Kissing 101. Find out everything that you might want to know about kissing from beginner to advanced kissing techniques in this fun and insightful book.

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